Comments on: http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2006/12/05/porny-problems-the-next-generation-3/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 03:17:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.1 by: Korina http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2006/12/05/porny-problems-the-next-generation-3/#comment-200 Wed, 06 Dec 2006 20:45:17 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2006/12/05/porny-problems-the-next-generation-3/#comment-200 This porn discussion is always interesting. In my case, I was exposed inappropriately to porn at a very early age in a very skeevy household where sexual abuse was occuring. I was too young to process it, and I feel as if porn colonized my sexuality and desires. It makes me feel split off from myself, and what I don't like about it is that dissociative feeling I get. What I don't like is that it imprints fantasy upon one. When having sex with a partner, I really don't like being shut off in my head in fantasy-land. I don't think that's healthy sexual connection. To make matters worse, that early porn was definitely sadomasochistic in nature, and it wasn't intimate, it wasn't sexy, it was almost...clinical. That's what turns me off porn. It feels clinical, impersonal. Sure, people can argue that I should not have see porn as a child--indeed, I should not have. But even the most vigilant parent is going to fail to keep porn away from their kids, with how accessible it is now. Kids are going to seek it--it's sex, it's forbidden! I think the only way parents can cope with this very modern problem is to give their children straightforward information about sex, about intimacy, about what real sexuality is about. That way, at least they can come away with some information that can counter the often unrealistic sex as portrayed in porn. I don't relate to the argment about porn women making me feel insecure about my body--I really don't like the porn asthetic at all and if anything, looking at them makes me feel sexier, and less contrived. I just can't watch porn because I worked in the adult industry, and I know too much about how so many of the women working in porn live their lives. My two cents. This porn discussion is always interesting. In my case, I was exposed inappropriately to porn at a very early age in a very skeevy household where sexual abuse was occuring. I was too young to process it, and I feel as if porn colonized my sexuality and desires. It makes me feel split off from myself, and what I don’t like about it is that dissociative feeling I get. What I don’t like is that it imprints fantasy upon one. When having sex with a partner, I really don’t like being shut off in my head in fantasy-land. I don’t think that’s healthy sexual connection. To make matters worse, that early porn was definitely sadomasochistic in nature, and it wasn’t intimate, it wasn’t sexy, it was almost…clinical. That’s what turns me off porn. It feels clinical, impersonal.

Sure, people can argue that I should not have see porn as a child–indeed, I should not have. But even the most vigilant parent is going to fail to keep porn away from their kids, with how accessible it is now. Kids are going to seek it–it’s sex, it’s forbidden! I think the only way parents can cope with this very modern problem is to give their children straightforward information about sex, about intimacy, about what real sexuality is about. That way, at least they can come away with some information that can counter the often unrealistic sex as portrayed in porn.

I don’t relate to the argment about porn women making me feel insecure about my body–I really don’t like the porn asthetic at all and if anything, looking at them makes me feel sexier, and less contrived. I just can’t watch porn because I worked in the adult industry, and I know too much about how so many of the women working in porn live their lives.

My two cents.

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