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		<title>by: Kat Black</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Aug 2007 02:51:44 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Hey Heather,

Sorry so slow to respond - I too am overwhelmed with (unpaid) projects. In particular,  a 'digital content festival' that is partly aimed at helping people like us to find new ways to make a living based on Chris Anderson's Long Tail ideas.

A couple of things that I thought might be helpful - http://BookTour.com - so your fans can register and find out when you're speaking in their town (costs nothing for authors to register).

Also, there's a great author-run marketing agency worth checking out, run by author M.J. Rose:  http://www.authorbuzz.com/

How about the paid speaking circuit? You're a brilliant speaker and have so much important stuff to say. There are quite a few agents for that, including small, 'inde' ones eg:

http://www.speakershome.com/ (although ouch that intro animation is painful!)

At my festival, we're running some great workshops on things like Business Models for Digital Delivery, but since it's in Australia I don't expect you to attend ;) A lot of the resources are available online though - see links from http://bytemefest.blogspot.com/

Also, I'm finding networking site LinkedIn.com great for connecting with movers 'n shakers, and of course Facebook and MySpace have made fan-wrangling a lot easier.

Have you thought about doing something for the mobile market? Eg sex advice for women. There's a company run by women making content for women:  http://limelife.com 

I know you've thought about all these things before, and I know demands on your time make it really hard to step back and work out a strategy to commercialise without compromising what you believe in... but Heather, you're SO worth more than you're getting. You deserve to be living the life that your icon-status and long-term committed fanbase show you deserve.

Big hugs from down under, kat black =^..^=</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hey Heather,</p>
<p>Sorry so slow to respond - I too am overwhelmed with (unpaid) projects. In particular,  a &#8216;digital content festival&#8217; that is partly aimed at helping people like us to find new ways to make a living based on Chris Anderson&#8217;s Long Tail ideas.</p>
<p>A couple of things that I thought might be helpful - <a href='http://BookTour.com' rel='nofollow'>http://BookTour.com</a> - so your fans can register and find out when you&#8217;re speaking in their town (costs nothing for authors to register).</p>
<p>Also, there&#8217;s a great author-run marketing agency worth checking out, run by author M.J. Rose:  <a href='http://www.authorbuzz.com/' rel='nofollow'>http://www.authorbuzz.com/</a></p>
<p>How about the paid speaking circuit? You&#8217;re a brilliant speaker and have so much important stuff to say. There are quite a few agents for that, including small, &#8216;inde&#8217; ones eg:</p>
<p><a href='http://www.speakershome.com/' rel='nofollow'>http://www.speakershome.com/</a> (although ouch that intro animation is painful!)</p>
<p>At my festival, we&#8217;re running some great workshops on things like Business Models for Digital Delivery, but since it&#8217;s in Australia I don&#8217;t expect you to attend <img src='http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' />  A lot of the resources are available online though - see links from <a href='http://bytemefest.blogspot.com/' rel='nofollow'>http://bytemefest.blogspot.com/</a></p>
<p>Also, I&#8217;m finding networking site LinkedIn.com great for connecting with movers &#8216;n shakers, and of course Facebook and MySpace have made fan-wrangling a lot easier.</p>
<p>Have you thought about doing something for the mobile market? Eg sex advice for women. There&#8217;s a company run by women making content for women:  <a href='http://limelife.com' rel='nofollow'>http://limelife.com</a> </p>
<p>I know you&#8217;ve thought about all these things before, and I know demands on your time make it really hard to step back and work out a strategy to commercialise without compromising what you believe in&#8230; but Heather, you&#8217;re SO worth more than you&#8217;re getting. You deserve to be living the life that your icon-status and long-term committed fanbase show you deserve.</p>
<p>Big hugs from down under, kat black =^..^=
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		<title>by: Annie</title>
		<link>http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2007/06/28/greetings-from-my-existential-crisis/#comment-16928</link>
		<pubDate>Sun, 15 Jul 2007 05:25:35 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Heather--

I'm a long-time reader as well--and a theater director and non-profit development person specializing in grant-writing. I suspect that something that could assist Scarleteen in terms of being able to receive grant money without having to go through the enormous headache of pursuing 501(c)3 status is an umbrella organization. There's several out there that allow individuals and relatively small organizations to receive tax-deductible donations; for example, there's one called Third Sector New England--social justice non-profits, and in New York, there's NYFA (New York Foundation for the Arts), Fractured Atlas, and The Field, which are specifically for artists. Now, these organizations take a small fee, generally 5%, off the top of donations, but they process donations for you and take on the burden of a lot of paperwork. One or both of your lives, educational or artistic, could be covered under that kind of arrangement--and I know that Fractured Atlas offers discounted health care plans to artists. Just a thought, but I'd love to volunteer to help you out if you're interested in trying to find something like that or need any grants written.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Heather&#8211;</p>
<p>I&#8217;m a long-time reader as well&#8211;and a theater director and non-profit development person specializing in grant-writing. I suspect that something that could assist Scarleteen in terms of being able to receive grant money without having to go through the enormous headache of pursuing 501(c)3 status is an umbrella organization. There&#8217;s several out there that allow individuals and relatively small organizations to receive tax-deductible donations; for example, there&#8217;s one called Third Sector New England&#8211;social justice non-profits, and in New York, there&#8217;s NYFA (New York Foundation for the Arts), Fractured Atlas, and The Field, which are specifically for artists. Now, these organizations take a small fee, generally 5%, off the top of donations, but they process donations for you and take on the burden of a lot of paperwork. One or both of your lives, educational or artistic, could be covered under that kind of arrangement&#8211;and I know that Fractured Atlas offers discounted health care plans to artists. Just a thought, but I&#8217;d love to volunteer to help you out if you&#8217;re interested in trying to find something like that or need any grants written.
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		<title>by: Heather Corinna</title>
		<link>http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2007/06/28/greetings-from-my-existential-crisis/#comment-16234</link>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Jul 2007 16:56:38 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Okay, starting from the back of the room...

Christopher: Give Bruce and his little dog a hug for me.  I'll see you and Colee soon again, around labor day.

Jianda: Working on it.  Regardless, we'll get there.

Stephen: I'll take a look for when there is $, thanks.

Marysia: Just thanks.  

Alecia: Really, there isn't.  Buying it different ways basically nets different benefits.  For example, buying it (and reviewing it!) at Amazon ups my rank which helps to increase my sales there.  But then, asking bookstores who aren't stocking it currently for it is another kind of helpful, because it gives them a weird social permission to have it, gets it out on more shelves more places, etc.  Buying it from an indie bookstore helps everyone.  Ultimately, there where of buying isn't so much what helps most as is simply buying it, getting an extra copy to get into the library, and helping with buzz about it by posting reviews at booksellers and blogs.  Bless for asking. Also, am starting to work on uni connections, yes.

Korina: I'm always up for more frelance work: I run out of money all the time, but I'm never out of words.  So, just holler at me per what y'all need these days and I'm on it.

Kate:  Good thinking, and yes, agreed: The UK climate is markedly better.

Jenny: Will have to think on that.

Kara: big love to you.

bflicka: You know, the one giant thing that keeps me out of even looking into that is having so many friends who work in higher academia, and not knowing a single one who doesn't want to eat her own eyeballs from the stresses of the system daily.  When I taught in schools before, the ONLY problems I ever had were with administration, and my impression is that the admins in earlier education are a cakewalk compared to in higher ed.

Kitchen: Yes, we ask.  Often.  Most of them just ignore those requests.  One issue a lot of teens have in any context where adults are helping them, from what I can gather, is that they're still enough in the parent/child mode that adults = people who owe them something.  So, for a lot of them, seeing what we do as a favor, rather than as an obligation, is difficult.

Chloe: I'll make a note of that, too.

Zelig: right now, the merch thing just isn't a workable option.  But the board-thing, for sure.  That's on my list to get started for this year already, and in fact, there's really no reason it even needed to be local, so at some point, that is something I'll bring to the broader table for interested parties.

Everyone: thanks again, even if what you had to offer was a hug or something that isn't workable, it's really kind that you checked in and left something.  Hugs back.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Okay, starting from the back of the room&#8230;</p>
<p>Christopher: Give Bruce and his little dog a hug for me.  I&#8217;ll see you and Colee soon again, around labor day.</p>
<p>Jianda: Working on it.  Regardless, we&#8217;ll get there.</p>
<p>Stephen: I&#8217;ll take a look for when there is $, thanks.</p>
<p>Marysia: Just thanks.  </p>
<p>Alecia: Really, there isn&#8217;t.  Buying it different ways basically nets different benefits.  For example, buying it (and reviewing it!) at Amazon ups my rank which helps to increase my sales there.  But then, asking bookstores who aren&#8217;t stocking it currently for it is another kind of helpful, because it gives them a weird social permission to have it, gets it out on more shelves more places, etc.  Buying it from an indie bookstore helps everyone.  Ultimately, there where of buying isn&#8217;t so much what helps most as is simply buying it, getting an extra copy to get into the library, and helping with buzz about it by posting reviews at booksellers and blogs.  Bless for asking. Also, am starting to work on uni connections, yes.</p>
<p>Korina: I&#8217;m always up for more frelance work: I run out of money all the time, but I&#8217;m never out of words.  So, just holler at me per what y&#8217;all need these days and I&#8217;m on it.</p>
<p>Kate:  Good thinking, and yes, agreed: The UK climate is markedly better.</p>
<p>Jenny: Will have to think on that.</p>
<p>Kara: big love to you.</p>
<p>bflicka: You know, the one giant thing that keeps me out of even looking into that is having so many friends who work in higher academia, and not knowing a single one who doesn&#8217;t want to eat her own eyeballs from the stresses of the system daily.  When I taught in schools before, the ONLY problems I ever had were with administration, and my impression is that the admins in earlier education are a cakewalk compared to in higher ed.</p>
<p>Kitchen: Yes, we ask.  Often.  Most of them just ignore those requests.  One issue a lot of teens have in any context where adults are helping them, from what I can gather, is that they&#8217;re still enough in the parent/child mode that adults = people who owe them something.  So, for a lot of them, seeing what we do as a favor, rather than as an obligation, is difficult.</p>
<p>Chloe: I&#8217;ll make a note of that, too.</p>
<p>Zelig: right now, the merch thing just isn&#8217;t a workable option.  But the board-thing, for sure.  That&#8217;s on my list to get started for this year already, and in fact, there&#8217;s really no reason it even needed to be local, so at some point, that is something I&#8217;ll bring to the broader table for interested parties.</p>
<p>Everyone: thanks again, even if what you had to offer was a hug or something that isn&#8217;t workable, it&#8217;s really kind that you checked in and left something.  Hugs back.
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		<title>by: Christopher</title>
		<link>http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2007/06/28/greetings-from-my-existential-crisis/#comment-16135</link>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jul 2007 16:17:48 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>I have no great words of wisdom (and saw so many practical solutions offered already).

Just a hug and a thanks for being a friend (and for being an alternate version of a real, grown woman to so many girlkids out there, including mine;-).

My &quot;perspective adjustor&quot; (aka my very ill roommate) is back in the hospital, reminding me (again) that &quot;standing upright and taking nutrition&quot; is more than an idle boast some days.

Hope you can figure out a way to make it all work (while retaining your sanity;-).
(much love to you and all who support you;-)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have no great words of wisdom (and saw so many practical solutions offered already).</p>
<p>Just a hug and a thanks for being a friend (and for being an alternate version of a real, grown woman to so many girlkids out there, including mine;-).</p>
<p>My &#8220;perspective adjustor&#8221; (aka my very ill roommate) is back in the hospital, reminding me (again) that &#8220;standing upright and taking nutrition&#8221; is more than an idle boast some days.</p>
<p>Hope you can figure out a way to make it all work (while retaining your sanity;-).<br />
(much love to you and all who support you;-)
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		<title>by: Jianda</title>
		<link>http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2007/06/28/greetings-from-my-existential-crisis/#comment-16047</link>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jul 2007 16:49:37 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Awwwww...HeatherLove! I'm sorry about this conundrum... look at all this support you have and these lovely suggestions. :) Mine would have been a lil' bit redundant, I believe. Being a nonprofit, though, does reap so many benefits, from free software donations, to free...donations, period. If you come up with basic ideas and marching orders for volunteers, a wish list/checklist, and publish it here or send it out as a newsletter, you know that so many of us will catch you, grrrl! :) 

Hugs Deluxe, 

Ji</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Awwwww&#8230;HeatherLove! I&#8217;m sorry about this conundrum&#8230; look at all this support you have and these lovely suggestions. <img src='http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  Mine would have been a lil&#8217; bit redundant, I believe. Being a nonprofit, though, does reap so many benefits, from free software donations, to free&#8230;donations, period. If you come up with basic ideas and marching orders for volunteers, a wish list/checklist, and publish it here or send it out as a newsletter, you know that so many of us will catch you, grrrl! <img src='http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  </p>
<p>Hugs Deluxe, </p>
<p>Ji
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		<title>by: Stephen L</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jul 2007 05:25:26 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>So sorry to hear this Heather. Have you looked into this
http://www.goodsearch.com/

I suppose it could be a total scam, but I don't see any reason to doubt it is what it says it is, a way for charities to get a cut of the billions raised by search engines each year.

Most likely registering scarleteen with it would only be worth a hundred dollars a year which seems to be what a typical organisation gets. However, you might be a bit of an exception. If you could get a fair chunk of your users to make this their search engine then it might come to a bit of money - after all I imagine the people who use scarleteen are pretty heavy web users and do lots of searches.

I'm not sure if registering would require this 501c3 status or not, but with thousands of signed up organisations it can't be too hard to get on their list.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So sorry to hear this Heather. Have you looked into this<br />
<a href='http://www.goodsearch.com/' rel='nofollow'>http://www.goodsearch.com/</a></p>
<p>I suppose it could be a total scam, but I don&#8217;t see any reason to doubt it is what it says it is, a way for charities to get a cut of the billions raised by search engines each year.</p>
<p>Most likely registering scarleteen with it would only be worth a hundred dollars a year which seems to be what a typical organisation gets. However, you might be a bit of an exception. If you could get a fair chunk of your users to make this their search engine then it might come to a bit of money - after all I imagine the people who use scarleteen are pretty heavy web users and do lots of searches.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not sure if registering would require this 501c3 status or not, but with thousands of signed up organisations it can&#8217;t be too hard to get on their list.
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		<title>by: Marysia Borek</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jul 2007 00:46:03 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>I just found your website a few months ago and  really enjoy it.  I logged on to read your latest journal post and was genuinely moved by your words.  As someone who left a job teaching second grade in Baltimore MD. to teach GED classes in Harrisburg, PA. I understand the stress and heartbreak of scraping out a living from your passions.  But after I read your latest journal entry I read the comments and then the cast and crew link.  While your stress and fears about money are justified you, my dear, are wealthier than most; just read your own cast and crew link when you need a reminder.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I just found your website a few months ago and  really enjoy it.  I logged on to read your latest journal post and was genuinely moved by your words.  As someone who left a job teaching second grade in Baltimore MD. to teach GED classes in Harrisburg, PA. I understand the stress and heartbreak of scraping out a living from your passions.  But after I read your latest journal entry I read the comments and then the cast and crew link.  While your stress and fears about money are justified you, my dear, are wealthier than most; just read your own cast and crew link when you need a reminder.
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		<title>by: alecia</title>
		<link>http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2007/06/28/greetings-from-my-existential-crisis/#comment-15984</link>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Jul 2007 21:37:00 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Random question, Heather: Is there a certain way to buy your book that benefits you more directly? For instance, I know that buying CDs at concerts gives the artists a better cut... is the same true for buying your book online or through an independent bookstore as opposed to Borders? Thanks!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Random question, Heather: Is there a certain way to buy your book that benefits you more directly? For instance, I know that buying CDs at concerts gives the artists a better cut&#8230; is the same true for buying your book online or through an independent bookstore as opposed to Borders? Thanks!
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		<title>by: Korina</title>
		<link>http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2007/06/28/greetings-from-my-existential-crisis/#comment-15982</link>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Jul 2007 19:29:49 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Sister, do I ever understand! I spent three years supporting myself through sex work, and hoping to god it never came to light. I have been in the gay media for four years now, and they are *very* accepting of such checkered pasts as mine, as is the school I attend (Antioch, there is one in Seattle) for my psych masters and MFT. I have been very honest with my classmates about my past, and they have been overwhelmingly supportive.

I don't think ads or such is selling out. I don't think taking a job is selling out. Sometime life can't meet all of our expectations/principles, but we can live by most of them, I find. It's a trade-off. Our mag sells sex ads, as does LA Weekly. We sustain our free magazine (which is a very good one) partly on these ads. It's how it is. I accept it, though I don't dig it.

Heather, you are immensely talented and you are just one person. Take care of you. You deserve it. 

You can always write some things for Frontiers! I need writers all the time.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sister, do I ever understand! I spent three years supporting myself through sex work, and hoping to god it never came to light. I have been in the gay media for four years now, and they are *very* accepting of such checkered pasts as mine, as is the school I attend (Antioch, there is one in Seattle) for my psych masters and MFT. I have been very honest with my classmates about my past, and they have been overwhelmingly supportive.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t think ads or such is selling out. I don&#8217;t think taking a job is selling out. Sometime life can&#8217;t meet all of our expectations/principles, but we can live by most of them, I find. It&#8217;s a trade-off. Our mag sells sex ads, as does LA Weekly. We sustain our free magazine (which is a very good one) partly on these ads. It&#8217;s how it is. I accept it, though I don&#8217;t dig it.</p>
<p>Heather, you are immensely talented and you are just one person. Take care of you. You deserve it. </p>
<p>You can always write some things for Frontiers! I need writers all the time.
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		<title>by: Kate</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Jul 2007 15:43:53 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Heather, as a long time reader of your sites i can only sigh at what a sick world it is when someone doing work as crucial and brilliant as yours has to struggle to get by, and yet so many nobodies can make a fat salary just by turning up for the 9 to 5.
Sparking off Marta's idea, i believe that the climate here in the UK is much better for sex ed work, and our equivalent of Planned Parenthood, the family planning association, might be a better bet. Their website at fpa.org.uk includes an online store for sex ed resources, which seems to be mainly their own publications. There's nothing available with the breadth of your book so it might be worth getting in touch with them to see if they'd promote it? I wish i had any contacts in retailing that might help but i don't.... but if you think trying the UK market is a good idea, and there's anything better done on the ground here, shout me and i'll give it my best shot. As one of the 9 to 5ers on the cushy salaries, frankly it's the least i can do.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Heather, as a long time reader of your sites i can only sigh at what a sick world it is when someone doing work as crucial and brilliant as yours has to struggle to get by, and yet so many nobodies can make a fat salary just by turning up for the 9 to 5.<br />
Sparking off Marta&#8217;s idea, i believe that the climate here in the UK is much better for sex ed work, and our equivalent of Planned Parenthood, the family planning association, might be a better bet. Their website at fpa.org.uk includes an online store for sex ed resources, which seems to be mainly their own publications. There&#8217;s nothing available with the breadth of your book so it might be worth getting in touch with them to see if they&#8217;d promote it? I wish i had any contacts in retailing that might help but i don&#8217;t&#8230;. but if you think trying the UK market is a good idea, and there&#8217;s anything better done on the ground here, shout me and i&#8217;ll give it my best shot. As one of the 9 to 5ers on the cushy salaries, frankly it&#8217;s the least i can do.
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