I’m physically bigger than my husband, older, better at figuring out machines, better at calculating things in my head, and more interested in power tools and how to build things. I think that’s he’s prettier than I am, too. He does all the housecleaning, I do all the cooking and maintenaince. And, people think this is really freaky. NO, honestly, neither one of us is gay or trans.

Could it be the reality of gender reassignment surgery and the greater acceptance of a variety of sexualities? When sex is seen as mutable, then gender becomes a straightjacket? Perhaps we’re linking gender too closely to sexuality? In a way, it reminds me of the bias against fat people. When body size is seen as being completely under our control, then it becomes acceptable to expect conformity, or at least to expect that size in some way reflects character. In reality, none of these things dependably line up the way we expect them to. People are much more interesting than that.