Comments on: http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 16:21:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.1 by: Peter http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41410 Fri, 06 Jun 2008 02:16:35 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41410 I'm ashamed to admit that I would have been hoping that the fool put a hand on me. It seems that some folks, those often who have a less than room temperature social IQ, need solid communication in order to change their long standing behavior patterns. I know, I know - bad liberal me, no donut. I’m ashamed to admit that I would have been hoping that the fool put a hand on me. It seems that some folks, those often who have a less than room temperature social IQ, need solid communication in order to change their long standing behavior patterns.

I know, I know - bad liberal me, no donut.

]]> by: athena http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41358 Thu, 05 Jun 2008 03:04:03 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41358 I admit, I only read the first half of your post, concering the story (I found it via Fourth Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy), but what I read was one of those stories I know is true and yet is too difficult to really think about. I was unlucky enough to be wooed by an abusive guy, yet three months into the relationship it became apparent how life was going to be for me if I continued. It took months of restraining orders, moving, changing my class schedule and quitting my job before I could feel safe again, and this man has changed my life habits- I still deadlock the door, something I never did before. It's a difficult and emotionally draining situation to watch, to see, in any capacity. I admit, I only read the first half of your post, concering the story (I found it via Fourth Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy), but what I read was one of those stories I know is true and yet is too difficult to really think about. I was unlucky enough to be wooed by an abusive guy, yet three months into the relationship it became apparent how life was going to be for me if I continued. It took months of restraining orders, moving, changing my class schedule and quitting my job before I could feel safe again, and this man has changed my life habits- I still deadlock the door, something I never did before. It’s a difficult and emotionally draining situation to watch, to see, in any capacity.

]]> by: Being Amber Rhea » Blog Archive » links for 2008-06-02 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41230 Mon, 02 Jun 2008 23:37:44 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41230 [...] heather corinna: pure as the driven slush » Blog Archive » Yesterday at the clinic I got wedged in the middle of a client’s abusive relationship. “Instead, still trying to get us both past him and back into the clinic, I said, very firmly, ‘I don’t care. I am taking her inside where she is safe, and you need to leave.’ He then said, ‘But she’s my WIFE!’” (tags: abuse assholes health women men relationships sexism feminism) [...] […] heather corinna: pure as the driven slush » Blog Archive » Yesterday at the clinic I got wedged in the middle of a client’s abusive relationship. “Instead, still trying to get us both past him and back into the clinic, I said, very firmly, ‘I don’t care. I am taking her inside where she is safe, and you need to leave.’ He then said, ‘But she’s my WIFE!’” (tags: abuse assholes health women men relationships sexism feminism) […]

]]> by: Waking Vixen » Blog Archive » Fourth Feminist Carnival of Sexual Freedom and Autonomy http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41187 Mon, 02 Jun 2008 08:11:00 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41187 [...] Yesterday at the clinic I got wedged in the middle of a client’s abusive relationship. When I circled around to them, greeted her by name and motioned with my arm a bit protectively around her back for us to walk back into the clinic, and we tried to go in, he stepped in front of me, as well. He stepped in front of me, arms waving as if flagging down a driver who has come to help you when your car has broken down — as if clearly, I was help en route for him — and said, “She won’t LISTEN to me!” [...] […] Yesterday at the clinic I got wedged in the middle of a client’s abusive relationship. When I circled around to them, greeted her by name and motioned with my arm a bit protectively around her back for us to walk back into the clinic, and we tried to go in, he stepped in front of me, as well. He stepped in front of me, arms waving as if flagging down a driver who has come to help you when your car has broken down — as if clearly, I was help en route for him — and said, “She won’t LISTEN to me!” […]

]]> by: M. D' http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41097 Sat, 31 May 2008 21:32:45 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41097 I didn't mean to imply that you had done this thoughtlessly, but I do think there is an ethical question here beyond the check boxes of HIPAA, which clearly you're not violating. I had some friends who used to ask me, when I was first working as a therapist, "what's your craziest case?! what's the most fucked up thing you've heard about?!" And I could have told them, taking out the names. There was no way they would have known my clients. And there have been times I wanted to tell friends just...<i>interesting</i> things my clients said. But I put myself in the clients' shoes and thought about whether I'd want to be talked about to their friends, much less to the open wilds of the blogosphere, and I realized that beyond the privacy you invoked in the parking lot to someone who could harm your client, there's a simple privacy that may not be life-or-death, but is still part of the contract. It's not that what you're writing about is sensitive; it's that it's someone's life, and that person did not make a decision to have it on display. I'm sorry if the tone of my prior comment came off as too critical, but I do think this stuff is important. I didn’t mean to imply that you had done this thoughtlessly, but I do think there is an ethical question here beyond the check boxes of HIPAA, which clearly you’re not violating. I had some friends who used to ask me, when I was first working as a therapist, “what’s your craziest case?! what’s the most fucked up thing you’ve heard about?!” And I could have told them, taking out the names. There was no way they would have known my clients. And there have been times I wanted to tell friends just…interesting things my clients said. But I put myself in the clients’ shoes and thought about whether I’d want to be talked about to their friends, much less to the open wilds of the blogosphere, and I realized that beyond the privacy you invoked in the parking lot to someone who could harm your client, there’s a simple privacy that may not be life-or-death, but is still part of the contract. It’s not that what you’re writing about is sensitive; it’s that it’s someone’s life, and that person did not make a decision to have it on display. I’m sorry if the tone of my prior comment came off as too critical, but I do think this stuff is important.

]]> by: M. D' http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41089 Sat, 31 May 2008 18:56:08 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41089 I don't mean to be preachy here, but...ok yes I do. While I'm on your side about everything of substance, you can't seriously type "I make clear that what goes on with a client and us is private" in the course of <i>blogging</i> your interaction with this woman. I've worked as a therapist and I want to encourage you to think a little about whether these stories are yours to tell publicly. We have to work out our feelings about this stuff, but that's what supervision is for. I don’t mean to be preachy here, but…ok yes I do. While I’m on your side about everything of substance, you can’t seriously type “I make clear that what goes on with a client and us is private” in the course of blogging your interaction with this woman. I’ve worked as a therapist and I want to encourage you to think a little about whether these stories are yours to tell publicly. We have to work out our feelings about this stuff, but that’s what supervision is for.

]]> by: Sylvia http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41073 Sat, 31 May 2008 12:29:14 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41073 Having worked in rape counselling, I have long been in awe of your staying power and ability to keep healing yourself. I can understand why people worry - but I do think you have a powerful argument in that you are <i>still there and still doing it</i> long after many of us have said they can't go on. Having worked in rape counselling, I have long been in awe of your staying power and ability to keep healing yourself. I can understand why people worry - but I do think you have a powerful argument in that you are still there and still doing it long after many of us have said they can’t go on.

]]> by: Marissa http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41029 Fri, 30 May 2008 22:37:10 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2008/05/30/poison-as-medicine/#comment-41029 I am absolutely horrified that this kind of bullshit still goes on. The rage I feel...I cannot even truly express in words. In fact, I am horrified that this kind of bullshit has EVER gone on in the history of the world. I wish I was able to do what you do. I am absolutely horrified that this kind of bullshit still goes on. The rage I feel…I cannot even truly express in words. In fact, I am horrified that this kind of bullshit has EVER gone on in the history of the world.

I wish I was able to do what you do.

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