Comments on: http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/07/06/leaving-the-last-ear-for-someone-else/ Tue, 18 Jun 2013 22:38:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.1 by: Verlie Malm http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/07/06/leaving-the-last-ear-for-someone-else/#comment-444740 Thu, 28 Jun 2012 00:06:07 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/07/06/leaving-the-last-ear-for-someone-else/#comment-444740 I'm just commenting to let you understand what a wonderful discovery my cousin's princess went through browsing the blog. She came to find plenty of pieces, with the inclusion of how it is like to have a very effective teaching character to have other folks smoothly comprehend various multifaceted subject matter. You undoubtedly did more than readers' expected results. Many thanks for distributing these warm and helpful, trusted, revealing and unique thoughts on your topic to Evelyn. I’m just commenting to let you understand what a wonderful discovery my cousin’s princess went through browsing the blog. She came to find plenty of pieces, with the inclusion of how it is like to have a very effective teaching character to have other folks smoothly comprehend various multifaceted subject matter. You undoubtedly did more than readers’ expected results. Many thanks for distributing these warm and helpful, trusted, revealing and unique thoughts on your topic to Evelyn.

]]> by: Sirenity http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/07/06/leaving-the-last-ear-for-someone-else/#comment-281052 Fri, 08 Jul 2011 11:35:01 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/07/06/leaving-the-last-ear-for-someone-else/#comment-281052 Congratulations on starting this journey before it's too late! I left it a little late and got very very sick as a result... didn't die fortunately and I've spent the last few years learning this lesson! Looking from the other side where 40hrs a week has become normal, I wish you a smooth transition... I'm sure you will feel plenty of that good old guilt en route, but it really doesn't last forever... One thing I heard from a good friend after I'd made the change was... we didn't feel good about ourselves for doing it, but we always left things for you, because we knew you would always pick them up so we didn't have to worry about them not getting done! It took me a few months, but I remember the first weekend that I did nothing and didn't feel guilty about it... it was wonderful truly wonderful. Enjoy the ride ... and the results :-) Congratulations on starting this journey before it’s too late! I left it a little late and got very very sick as a result… didn’t die fortunately and I’ve spent the last few years learning this lesson!

Looking from the other side where 40hrs a week has become normal, I wish you a smooth transition… I’m sure you will feel plenty of that good old guilt en route, but it really doesn’t last forever…

One thing I heard from a good friend after I’d made the change was… we didn’t feel good about ourselves for doing it, but we always left things for you, because we knew you would always pick them up so we didn’t have to worry about them not getting done!

It took me a few months, but I remember the first weekend that I did nothing and didn’t feel guilty about it… it was wonderful truly wonderful.

Enjoy the ride … and the results :-)

]]> by: Trixie http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/07/06/leaving-the-last-ear-for-someone-else/#comment-280397 Thu, 07 Jul 2011 00:56:27 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/07/06/leaving-the-last-ear-for-someone-else/#comment-280397 Yay!! Congratulations and good luck. Getting help with this stuff is so important because it's the kind of truth you can know on an intellectual level but never apply and BELIEVE and practice on a daily basis without a lot of support and reminders and making it a huge gigantic priority. It's helpful to read someone going through similar stuff so thanks for sharing. My head nodded at something in every paragraph. {{{hugs}}} Yay!! Congratulations and good luck. Getting help with this stuff is so important because it’s the kind of truth you can know on an intellectual level but never apply and BELIEVE and practice on a daily basis without a lot of support and reminders and making it a huge gigantic priority.

It’s helpful to read someone going through similar stuff so thanks for sharing. My head nodded at something in every paragraph. {{{hugs}}}

]]> by: Ashbet http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/07/06/leaving-the-last-ear-for-someone-else/#comment-280381 Wed, 06 Jul 2011 23:28:43 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/07/06/leaving-the-last-ear-for-someone-else/#comment-280381 It makes me really happy to see you come to this realization -- it's something that nobody else can tell you until you're ready to hear it. I think that part of the problem is that the work you do matters so much more than shucking corn, and you *can* make an immediate difference in people's lives sometimes, and that's immensely rewarding... plus, there's the fear/guilt that, by taking time to live your own life, you might miss that chance and let someone fall through the cracks. Saying "You can't save everyone" sounds flip and dismissive... but, on the other hand, one of the lives you're saving, one of the people who deserves joy and leisure and comfort, is *you*. It's so hard, I know, because you are an incredibly generous and loving person, and you *want* to help all the people who need it, and there aren't enough people who are helping in your field. But you do deserve a life of your own, you *have* earned it, and you do amazing work that you should be proud of at the end of the day -- and that work isn't any less amazing if you cut your pace back to one that won't break your body and your spirit. **hugs** It makes me really happy to see you come to this realization — it’s something that nobody else can tell you until you’re ready to hear it.

I think that part of the problem is that the work you do matters so much more than shucking corn, and you *can* make an immediate difference in people’s lives sometimes, and that’s immensely rewarding… plus, there’s the fear/guilt that, by taking time to live your own life, you might miss that chance and let someone fall through the cracks.

Saying “You can’t save everyone” sounds flip and dismissive… but, on the other hand, one of the lives you’re saving, one of the people who deserves joy and leisure and comfort, is *you*.

It’s so hard, I know, because you are an incredibly generous and loving person, and you *want* to help all the people who need it, and there aren’t enough people who are helping in your field.

But you do deserve a life of your own, you *have* earned it, and you do amazing work that you should be proud of at the end of the day — and that work isn’t any less amazing if you cut your pace back to one that won’t break your body and your spirit.

**hugs**

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