Comments on: http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/ Mon, 21 May 2012 18:29:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.1 by: Scott http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-377405 Wed, 28 Dec 2011 18:39:23 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-377405 Thank you for this. I am most definitely an introvert and have taken harmful external labels upon myself, not the least of which has been, "social phobic malcontent with generalized anxiety disorder." I've suffered from severe depression for the better part of my life, mostly because I never learned to honor my internal rhythms; only after 37 years do I realize that, though self-rejection was externally enforced initially through cultural conditioning it later became an entirely self imposed beast. I recently read a book called "Introvert Power" which calls upon our strengths and the necessity of introversion to balance our society. I'm working through a similar process, trying to balance my need (kneed NEED) for solitude with the demands of my work and society in general. It's nice to know that there are kindred spirits out there and that I'm not nor have I ever been broken. Thank you for this. I am most definitely an introvert and have taken harmful external labels upon myself, not the least of which has been, “social phobic malcontent with generalized anxiety disorder.” I’ve suffered from severe depression for the better part of my life, mostly because I never learned to honor my internal rhythms; only after 37 years do I realize that, though self-rejection was externally enforced initially through cultural conditioning it later became an entirely self imposed beast. I recently read a book called “Introvert Power” which calls upon our strengths and the necessity of introversion to balance our society. I’m working through a similar process, trying to balance my need (kneed NEED) for solitude with the demands of my work and society in general. It’s nice to know that there are kindred spirits out there and that I’m not nor have I ever been broken.

]]> by: MJ http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-370962 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 05:52:26 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-370962 Hey Heather! Stopped by to see if you had written anything lately, and I came upon this post. Every word written in this post rings true for me, too. I'd write more, but I'm exhausted! Finals week next week then a much needed break! :) Hey Heather! Stopped by to see if you had written anything lately, and I came upon this post. Every word written in this post rings true for me, too. I’d write more, but I’m exhausted! Finals week next week then a much needed break! :)

]]> by: Kaari http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-368957 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 21:21:26 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-368957 I'm completely with you. (No surprise there, is there?!) I have never been happier than I am now when I can be by myself all day. I have the introverts upstairs if I need someone to talk to, but they don't think it's odd if I show up for dinner and then head back downstairs to read or write or just Be Alone. I'm not at self-sustaining yet and that worries me, but I love my solitude so much. I have the feeling that when you find a way to make this work for you, you're going to do the most amazing things ever imagined. You're brilliant and have already done so many amazing things, but have been fighting this all the while. Imagine how completely fabulous it'll be when you're not tired from this fight anymore! I’m completely with you. (No surprise there, is there?!) I have never been happier than I am now when I can be by myself all day. I have the introverts upstairs if I need someone to talk to, but they don’t think it’s odd if I show up for dinner and then head back downstairs to read or write or just Be Alone. I’m not at self-sustaining yet and that worries me, but I love my solitude so much.

I have the feeling that when you find a way to make this work for you, you’re going to do the most amazing things ever imagined. You’re brilliant and have already done so many amazing things, but have been fighting this all the while. Imagine how completely fabulous it’ll be when you’re not tired from this fight anymore!

]]> by: Christopher http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-367968 Sun, 27 Nov 2011 01:21:43 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-367968 Whatever method you use to run your life, everyone you choose to interact with is better from the connection ( and good to read that your absence from social media was/is part of your amazing journey of self awareness , not something scary:). I wish I could find some quiet;-) Whatever method you use to run your life, everyone you choose to interact with is better from the connection ( and good to read that your absence from social media was/is part of your amazing journey of self awareness , not something scary:).

I wish I could find some quiet;-)

]]> by: Heather Corinna http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-366929 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 21:42:44 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-366929 That book looks AWESOME. What perfect timing! Thanks for letting me know about it. And yeah: we're not broken, just like extroverts aren't broken. But it's certainly easy for it to look like we are when the world swings to such an extroverted way of being. That book looks AWESOME. What perfect timing! Thanks for letting me know about it.

And yeah: we’re not broken, just like extroverts aren’t broken. But it’s certainly easy for it to look like we are when the world swings to such an extroverted way of being.

]]> by: hunter http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-366927 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 21:38:47 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-366927 There's a book coming out in January that I fully intend to read. It's called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, and I think it has the potential to be amazing. I am one of those deeply introverted folks who is quite happy to be left all alone 95% of the time, and I have the hardest time explaining to people that this doesn't mean I'm broken...it's just how I'm wired. I'm hoping we're due for a swing back towards introversion some time soon. This constant blitz of on!on!on! has got to end. There’s a book coming out in January that I fully intend to read. It’s called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, and I think it has the potential to be amazing. I am one of those deeply introverted folks who is quite happy to be left all alone 95% of the time, and I have the hardest time explaining to people that this doesn’t mean I’m broken…it’s just how I’m wired.

I’m hoping we’re due for a swing back towards introversion some time soon. This constant blitz of on!on!on! has got to end.

]]> by: Samantha http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-366714 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 02:37:58 +0000 http://www.femmerotic.com/journal/2011/11/21/why-ive-been-quiet-and-my-aim-to-stay-so/#comment-366714 I swear extroverts are exceptionally oblivious to the fact that extroversion isn't the one best way to be a successful human. Honor your introversion & take care of your self. You do so much good for so many. Thanks. I swear extroverts are exceptionally oblivious to the fact that extroversion isn’t the one best way to be a successful human. Honor your introversion & take care of your self. You do so much good for so many. Thanks.

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